Quiet-Just a Moment

It is quiet in the house today. Yesterday, anything but. I was getting Caitlyn fed yesterday when my sister called. Her husband's van broke down and they were stranded. The rest of the day became a "rob Peter to pay Paul" kind of day (as my brother so eloquently put).


He had plans for the day as did I. We had to alter those and make adjustments to accommodate my sister's need. It was crazy chaos most of the day, but the tasks that needed to be completed were.

That day our family came together. Someone had a need, and we did what we could. I, because I am learning to set boundaries and priorities, stopped and called my brother before I made a decision, and then I talked to my husband. Usually, or I should say, in the past, I jumped right in. There is a need-I can meet it-get on it. However, doing so doesn't always help a situation, and often it enables people to live the way they are living, even if not productive to themselves.

Ironically enough, Steve and I were driving home later, and on the radio was a talk show all about setting boundaries. The speaker made the point that not setting boundaries is essentially the same as enabling. I had never thought of it from that angle, and realizing I have done that in my relationships has changed my priorities. I can't be the all in all for anyone. I don't have unlimited resources. I don't have unlimited knowledge. I don't really know how things are going to turn out.

What I do know is the importance of family. I really enjoy having my daughter nearby. I am glad my brother and sister are here. I am glad for the opportunity to spend time with them and share moments with them. I am equally sad that my sons and their wives are not here, and that we don't have the same opportunities with them. I miss watching Aaron grow and explore. I miss watching my sons grow into men. I miss seeing God's hand in their lives on a regular basis. I don't know what God is doing or teaching them. I feel the void of their absence. That must be the essence of empty nest, feeling that void that children once filled.

Quiet...not often around here, and not lately for sure. Once in awhile it is nice, but there is such a thing as too quiet!